couldn't keep the tears at bay. Though you have to give me credit for *trying*
The kids had a great time, as usual. We found a great spot for the parade a whole block that was practically empty(hidden on the far side of space MT) I was surprised too because otherwise the place was packed!
We've decided that we will be changing both J and T's first names once we adopt. I know things are still somewhat up in the air as far as T's case goes. The "plan" still remains adoption(by us) while bio dad still has weekly visits. Interestingly enough he hasn't shown for a SINGLE visit since he appealed the termination of services(which he did on our last TPR date and judge reinstated services) he also hasn't done ANYTHING on his case plan. We go back to court next week for what is supposed to be TPR again, however CW is preparing us that judge likely WONT grant it yet. So we are just going through the motions.
My point was we plan to change the girls first names and make their given first name their middle names. Olivia's middle name is Grace and we call her Olivia Grace more than we call her Olivia and we've already been calling J Emily J for sometime now and she made the transition without any problem. So from now (blog-wise)J will be known as Emily and T will be known as Mackenzie(though we still call T by her given name and likely will until we SEE the TPR occur)
Ive emailed with A's cousin today. They will be changing his name to Joseph. I will still call him "A" here on the blog(for now). I'm wondering if *we* should start calling him Joseph before he leaves? I wonder if somehow that will "help" him in this transition? They seem nice enough. That's all I am up to saying about that.
We've decided that we will be changing both J and T's first names once we adopt. I know things are still somewhat up in the air as far as T's case goes. The "plan" still remains adoption(by us) while bio dad still has weekly visits. Interestingly enough he hasn't shown for a SINGLE visit since he appealed the termination of services(which he did on our last TPR date and judge reinstated services) he also hasn't done ANYTHING on his case plan. We go back to court next week for what is supposed to be TPR again, however CW is preparing us that judge likely WONT grant it yet. So we are just going through the motions.
My point was we plan to change the girls first names and make their given first name their middle names. Olivia's middle name is Grace and we call her Olivia Grace more than we call her Olivia and we've already been calling J Emily J for sometime now and she made the transition without any problem. So from now (blog-wise)J will be known as Emily and T will be known as Mackenzie(though we still call T by her given name and likely will until we SEE the TPR occur)
Ive emailed with A's cousin today. They will be changing his name to Joseph. I will still call him "A" here on the blog(for now). I'm wondering if *we* should start calling him Joseph before he leaves? I wonder if somehow that will "help" him in this transition? They seem nice enough. That's all I am up to saying about that.
3 comments:
i can't hardly see Olivia's hair in that pic. Thats annoying. You told me you'd text me a pic and you never did. I'll let it go this time. And I love the names you've chosen. As far as the Joseph thing goes...gosh Nay go with your instinct. If it doesn't feel right to you right now, don't do it. If it does........well, only you know. Its just unfair all the way around. I never ever pictured this as an ending to the story. Never.
Why did we have to have horrible shit happen at the same time? Life isn't fair. I love you so much. I'm sorry.
rae
I can't wait to see all the little faces on adoption day. What precious pictures those will be! Yesterday was my oldest son's adoption day, so it was pretty special :)
I could never bring myself to call Baby Bear by the name his first mom used... in fact, I still refer to him by the name we picked out for him. Honestly, I don't think it will make that much difference in the long run.
Do whatever makes it possible for you to get through this time.
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