In the blink of an eye(x-posted)

I am so speechless right now. As many of you may remember T came into care at birth. Neither of her bios had a single visit with her or did ANYTHING atall on their case plans. Both of their parental rights were terminated in Oct. You might also remember that an aunt was interested in taking her and for a long time that was the goal, however at the last minute she backed out and we were asked to adopt. We were assigned an adoption worker, updated our homestudy and told that today's court hearing would be for her plan to be changed from adoption by her aunt to adoption by us. Last Thursday I recieved a phone call that T's bio dad had shown up with a court order to see her THAT day. I took her and we had a great visit. I really honestly like the guy, T looks exactly like him and he was really great with her. When I talked with the adoption worker following the visit she assured me this shouldnt change anything that she would see us at court. WELL court was this morning and come to find out dad HAS been doing his caseplan only who ever HE was turning his work into WASNT passing it onto T's worker. He had certificates for parenting classes, forms from his "program", had passed the last 8 random drug tests, has a job and a home(with his mother and his other 4children ages 18months,5,6,16) He lives out of state about 3 hrs away. I was mostly shocked when they all looked at me and asked if I had any questions..um no? and then told me to give him my phone number or take his number so we can arrange visits, he gets visits once per week and I am to set them up and meet him in a public place so they can see one another and establish a bond. T is 13months old. I just gave him my number and walked out with the most blank look on my face. I cant believe that we went to court today because WE were supposed to be adopting her and now he gets unsupervised visits? I guess if I had to be honest with you all I am NOT heartbroken after meeting him. Maybe it hasnt hit me yet but as much as I DO LOVE HER when I look at this man and his other children, they ARE really great ppl. He has obviously made some bad choices(he was in prison when she was born and only recently got out)but it is obvious to me that he loves her. I feel that it WOULD be best for her to grow up with this family, her family if possible. I will do everything I can to help him and her get to know one another and support this RU. I am still just so completely shocked I cant believe this is how things went today. I KNOW it isnt over until its over but from the looks of it and seeing all he has done etc it does look to me like she will go to him, and I do hope she can if possible. I just cant help but be alittle bit sad for *me* Thanks for listening.