Ive been very blessed to have my mother living with me and helping me with my kids from Olivia's conception till now. She's done, understandably. She is ready to live her own life, can't say I blame her--even though I'm sad at the thought of losing her...
The truth is I don't know HOW other foster parents do it without help. I have visits I have to transport and supervise, I don't feel its appropriate to bring my other children with me to these visits. I also have required training classes(and even more since one of my children is highly medically fragile) J has many many many Dr's appointments/evaluations each month that taking the other children to is just not an option. So between court dates, Dr's appointments, and visits I have at least 2-3 appointments per week not to mention the girls activities such as gymnastics and ballet/tap I NEED an extra pair of hands. I mentioned below in my "such a loser" post about trying to find childcare. WELL I sent out another email today hoping to get at least a handful of responses and I did! Ironically I ended up selecting the 18yr old I mentioned in my previous post. I talked with a few stay at home moms, spent a lot of time talking with one who has a 2yr old and is pregnant...but ultimately I didn't feel comfortable with the obvious drawbacks to that scenario. The 18 year old, who I will now refer to as Krystal is adorable. She has worked with children in a daycare setting and as a camp counselor in addition to lots of babysitting. She is free from now until late July when she is going on a missionary trip to work with homeless children in NYC. But what got her the job, is the fact that she has season passes to Disney Land!(we do aswell and Im thrilled to have an extra pair of hands at the Happiest Place on Earth!) She is going to work every Tuesday from 10am-430pm and then on other various days as needed. I am contracting her a guaranteed salary for 40hrs per month and then I will pay her an hrly rate if we go above those hrs. I dont know HOW I am going to afford this, its gonna hurt I know it. But if she works out as well as I hope she does it will be worth every penny!
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Where does the situation go w/ the bio dad and you guys adopting since he's not doing what he's supposed to? Sending out lots of love and hope that everything is resolved in a timely and healthy manner for everyone involved.
Glad you found someone you can trust. It is really hard to juggle child care and foster parenting. In fact, because we both work, I think we're going to have to leave our home on hold until we can find child care for a potential placement.
Wow, I can't imagine that many babies/toddlers in my house at once!
And then one going off to the hospital? ACK!
I'm glad you found someone to help out. I know I had way more energy for kids when I was 18.
In our county, we're not allowed to hire anyone under 21. Not a law, just the "rule" of the head of placement. Kinda limits the pool, when you can't hire college students for cheap.
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